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I attended this all-white party at Rockwell last Wednesday. I was there to support a friend who was part of the program.

I don't normally go to these parties. The only reason I went is that my friend told me it was a gathering of Manila's Who's Who? And I so desperately hoped the most eligible ones were there. My hopes were in vain. My most eligible wasn't.

Most of the people there were the people I am not particular fond off. Those so-called hi-class people who frequent the Embassy, write nonsense in their lifestyle columns and regard themselves as "the Paris Hilton" and so on of the Philippines.

But my favorite catway walker was there. And I conclude that while she looked great in the last picture I saw of her, I will return to my previous notion that she's not my type. Her features are too mestiza pala. Although she really looks like a doll and she projects well. She walks well. Even if she was the shortest model she walked the best.

After the show, I wanted to have my picture taken with her. But I thought maybe it's crass to pose with a "celeb". So I didn't.

BUT GUESS WHO'S PARIS BOUND ON WEDNESDAY?

So it's Paris this month and Argentina next month.

Any helpful French/Spanish phrases I should remember?

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Short:
Yesterday, I was driving home from La Union, when I chanced upon this street that had heavy traffic. A traffic aide was trying to direct the flow, allowing one lane to pass first and then the other.

The situation was on a standstill and I was patiently waiting for our lane’s turn to move. This red car on my left side was eager to move. But the traffic aide was standing in front of him motioning him to stop. He stopped. But slowly inched forward, hitting the traffic aide. The aide, motioned him to stop, but he kept on inching, slowly pushing the aide forward. The aide now motioned his entire body against the hood of the red car. And the car would stop, but then inch forward again. What a jerk! The poor traffic aide just let him through.

With that, I ain’t wondering why this country is not progressing. Most Filipinos think individually, not as a collective. Generally, we don’t really care about this country. We just want to get ahead, no matter what the consequence.

I am extremely ashamed. And depressed. Where is this country headed to?


Tag:
Sorry dear, there’s no book within reach right now. So I’ll just answer some of the questions in this survey

[YOUR NAME]
MIGUEL

[WHAT DO YOU THINK WOULD BE THE WORST WAY TO DIE?]
IN A FIRE, OR DROWNING

[IF YOU HAD TO PICK SOMEONE TO MARRY RIGHT NOW, WHO WOULD IT BE AND WHY?]
SCARY QUESTION. ASSUMING I CAN AFFORD TO MARRY AND MAINTAIN HER, ANNA ALEXANDRA.

[WOULD YOU HAVE SEX BEFORE YOU GET MARRIED?]
IF I COULD TURN BACK TIME, I’D RATHER NOT

[REALISTICALLY, DO YOU THINK YOU WILL GET DRUNK BEFORE YOU HIT 21?]
MY FIRST DRUNKEN EXPERIENCE HAPPENED WHEN I WAS FIFTEEN

[HAVE YOU HAD A NIGHTMARE LATELY?]
YES

[DO YOU HAVE A REOCCURING DREAM?]
NOPE

[HAVE YOU EVER HAD A DREAM, AND THEN THAT EXACT SAME THING HAPPENED IN REAL LIFE?]
NOT THE EXACT SAME THING, BUT SIMILAR THINGS

[DO YOU HAVE A SECRET YOU HAVE NEVER TOLD ANYONE?]
YES

[WHAT DO YOU THINK ABOUT "INSIDE JOKES"?]
IT’S ALL GOOD, AS LONG AS YOU DON’T KEEP REPEATING THEM IN THE PRESENCE OF “OUTSIDERS”

[DO YOU BELIEVE IN LOVE @ FIRST SIGHT?]
LIKE THEY SAY, IF YOU BELIEVE IN LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT, YOU’LL NEVER STOP LOOKING

[HAVE YOU EVER WISHED UPON A STAR, SERIOUSLY?]
NEVER

[DO YOU KNOW OF A MEMBER OF THE OPPOSITE SEX WHO YOU ARE COMFORTABLE ENOUGH WITH TO TALK ABOUT ALMOST ANYTHING? IF SO, WHO?]
YES. MY BESTFRIENDS.

[DO YOU HAVE A FRIEND OF THE SAME SEX THAT YOU COULD TELL ALMOST ANYTHING TO?]
NO.

[IF YOU FOUND OUT THAT YOU WERE GONNA DIE TOMORROW, IS THERE ANYTHING YOU WOULD WANT TO SAY OR DO?]
GO AND SEE THE POPE.

[RIGHT NOW, WHAT IS YOUR BIGGEST REGRET?]
NONE

[NAME ONE PERSON WHO HAS SERIOUSLY CHANGED YOUR LIFE FOR THE BETTER]
THE PERSON WHO BROUGHT ME CLOSER TO CHRIST

[FOR WORSE?]
I USED TO THINK MY FATHER. BUT I HAVE ALREADY FORGIVEN HIM.

[DO YOU WANT TO HAVE ANY KIDS? IF SO, HOW MANY AND WHAT WILL YOU NAME THEM]
I WANT TO HAVE FOUR: EMMANUEL, JOB, REBEKAH, MICAH

[IS THERE SOMETHING THAT YOU TOTALLY OPPOSE?]
DEATH PENALTY

[WHEN DID YOU LAST CRY? WHAT MAKES YOU CRY?]
WHEN I FOUND OUT SHE WAS IN LOVE WITH SOMEONE ELSE, AND EXTREMELY HAPPY WITH SOMEONE ELSE.

[HAVE YOU EVER SERIOUSLY THOUGHT ABOUT COMMITTING SUICIDE?]
WHEN I WAS A TEENAGER

[THEORETICALLY, IF YOU WERE GOING TO COMMIT SUICIDE, HOW WOULD YOU DO IT?]
I TRIED TO SHOOT MYSELF IN THE CHEST SO THAT IF I DIE, MY FACE WON’T BE ALL MESSED UP AND PEOPLE WON’T BE GROSSED OUT WHEN LOOKING AT MY CASKET.

[IF YOU COULD CHANGE ONE THING YOU HAVE DONE IN THE PAST 24 HOURS, WHAT WOULD IT BE?]
NOT BE A TOTAL JERK TO THAT NURSE WHO WAS ATTENDING TO ME THIS MORNING.

[WHO CAN MAKE YOU SMILE, NO MATTER WHAT MOOD YOU ARE IN?]
HER

[WHAT IS THE CORNIEST PICK UP LINE YOU HAVE EVER HEARD:]
EXCUSE ME, DO YOU HAVE A LIGHT?

[IF YOU GOT PREGNANT WHEN YOU WERE REALLY YOUNG, LIKE 14, WOULD YOU HAVE AN ABORTION?]
NEVER

[DO YOU FEEL SAFE AT SCHOOL? ON A SCALE OF 1-10 HOW SAFE DO YOU FEEL? (10 BEING VERY SAFE, 1 BEING NOT SAFE)]
NON-ISSUE TO ME

[WHAT IS THE SCARIEST MOVIE YOU HAVE EVER SEEN?]
SIXTH SENSE

[THE FUNNIEST?]
HARD TO CHOOSE.

[HAVE YOU EVER GOTTEN A DETENTION OR SUSPENSION?]
OFTEN IN HIGHSCHOOL

Request:
Please stop.
The circumstances are different now and I’m not sure I want it changed.
I was the jerk. I was Judas… although you weren’t exactly a saint as well.
But you have to stop. It’s been almost a decade now and it has to stop.
I don’t love you like that and I never did
But I will always be correct
Will always be polite with you
Coz I care. In the way that I always cared.
Please stop.

Posted by THE BLOGSTALKER at 8:55 AM | | Search Warrants

I was scanning this career-related book that a friend of mine was reading. It said that everything about you communicates something…including your name. And some of the back pages indicate the correlation of names to affluence or educational attainment in the US. As well as the top first names associated with crimes and so on and so forth.

They just show the top 7 names per category and then there’s a break down between males and females. There’s a female name that appeared in the Top list of first names for babies of affluent families, white-collared families, families whose head of the family has finished college. Guess what that name was? Alexandra. Sorry, I just had to say that. This stalker is obviously still fixated.

Parents really ought to be careful when choosing names. It could be detrimental to the child's career!

So I tried to check out the implication of my name and I chanced upon this website which contained had interesting meanings behind names. The only problem is that it only accepts one first name. Most Filipinos have 2 given names, which meant I had to type two names.

First I analyzed my primary target’s name. Not just the powerful name, but including the other given name. Here are some interesting excerpts:

Her other first name it said: You have a quick-minded, sensitive nature. It gives you a clever, creative ability in art, music, singing, or drama and an appreciation for refined surroundings.

Your sociable nature expresses affection, kindness, and thoughtfulness to the extent that it is difficult for you not to be affected by others and governed by your emotions, rather than by logic and reason. As you respond to love and encouragement from others, your romantic and dreamy nature can easily lead you into love affairs.

–I guess all Triple A stalkers can attest to that last part.


Your name of Alexandra causes you to place considerable importance upon the material aspect of life. You have an eye for quality, desiring always the very best that money can buy, and you are not content with anything that is second best. You are quick to size up others, and this appraisal is based upon their physical appearance, their clothes, and whether they have achieved material success and the standards of quality that you have set in your own mind.
--Hmmm. Okay. So I therefore conclude out of my league talaga.

What about me?

This name, when combined with the last name, can cause health weaknesses in the reproductive organs, and elimination system.

- Where is the “elimination system”? Which part of the body ba yan?


Your name of Miguel has made you practical, systematic, and thorough. This name encourages the expression of leadership and organizational skills, shrewdness, and analytical ability.

Particular about your material possessions, you keep everything you own in a good state of repair, and you budget your personal finances very carefully.

-- Nako po. Yung isa mahilig sa material possessions, ako naman daw mahilig magbudget. Sobrang disjoint talaga.


My other first name naman has created a practical, patient, scientific nature able to concentrate on the finer details of a project or undertaking.You would function best in settled conditions where you are not called upon to meet and mix too closely with others, but are able to work on your own. This name restricts congenial expression and association, creating much aloneness.
--But I don’t to be alone. And I just realized I have two boring names. Wala man lang mention of anything about my love life. It’s all about projects and work. This is sad.


What about my dear friend?
Although the name Ivah creates the urge to be creative and original, we emphasize that it limits your versatility and scope, tuning you to technical details. This name, when can cause health weaknesses and accidents to the head, and the elimination system.

Your first name of Ivah has made you a hard worker with a meticulous sense of detail. You have a great deal of patience and independence, and you can be relied upon to complete your undertakings. You are stable, trustworthy, homeloving, and logical in practical matters, but rather unresponsive to suggestions from others. You resist change.

While the name Denise creates the urge to be creative and original, we point out that it causes procrastination, lack of confidence, and the inability to realize your goals and ambitions.


--Fine, Fine, dito ako natawa:
Your personal appearance is important to you, for you desire to make a good impression on others.

--Ito pa.


Your pleasant manner attracts people to you with their problems and you are capable of offering practical advice, though you may not follow such advice yourself.


-- And no wonder may pagka-showbiz:

This name causes you to be somewhat too concerned with the personalities, problems, and activities of other people.


O. Walang pikunan. Hindi ako ang nag-associate ng ganyang meanings sa names. Find out what yours means, just check out http://www.kabalarians.com/

Posted by THE BLOGSTALKER at 5:55 PM | | Search Warrants

I'm at a friend's condo. The whole building has WIFI. Astig!!! I'm trying to get a hang of his mac. Medyo mahirap mag post.

Anyway it's been a good weekend.

Earlier, as I was waiting for the friend to pick me up at the condo lobby. I saw some magazines. I usually don't read lifestyle magazines just cause it's laiden with people who do not have better things to do than flaunt their money. But this magazine's cover read: 2006 Most Eligible.

And so I opened it. And lo and behold the first in the list just happens to be: Ms. Triple A. But I didn't like her pictures there. In my opinion, she looks a lot better with little make-up on. According to the article, she used to be the chubby girl in highschool. I guess she's a classic case of ugly duckling turned swan. And what a beautiful swan.

I knew she was out of my league. But I didn't know she was Lifestyle Asia's 2006 Most Eligible in the Philippines out of my league. And to think she corrected me when I said she was : too pretty and too sosyal. Oh well.

So anyway I got to see two movies this week. One was SUKOB, upon the insistence of my friends. Kris Aquino was so funny, I forgot I was watching a horror film.

And because they forced me to see Kris Aquino, I forced them to see Adam Sandler. We watched CLICK the day after. And they were so glad I took them there cause they were so touched by the story. I too was touched. All workaholic young adults must see this. All dating people must also see this cause it's a nice date movie. If only I had a real date. But while the story was good, I could only focus on KATE and her rockin body. To think she plays the role of a housewife: with simple hairstyle and house-wifey clothes. She still manages to look gorgeous.

Kate is my new dreamgirl. I love you Kate!!! I wish I could marry someone who looks like Kate and is like the character she plays in Click. I would have reason to come home every day. It would be a bliss to see that face when I wake up in the morning.





Also recently found out one of my innocent victims has visited my site. She intellectualized what it meant if the blogstalker becomes the stalkee. I say: take it easy and I hope you enjoy my posts as much as I enjoy reading yours.

Great day everyone!

Posted by THE BLOGSTALKER at 6:15 PM | | Search Warrants

I think the fineprint on my profile says: I believe in True Love. And I do.

Reading through the archives, it's quite obvious I am in a vicious cycle of unrequited love. I know I seem pathetic. Maybe I am.

But if she's not the one, am still banking on the possibility that I will find the other HER...the ONE. I just hope its sooner than later.

While I believe in True Love. I don't believe in LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT. As the leaf of the movie "Closer" said, if you believe in love at first sight, you'll never stop looking. Yes, love is a decision and it's work: you make it happen. This probably explains my relentless pursuit of affection for someone who may not consider engaging with me. I guess, my prayer would now be: for WISDOM to know when I should "work at it" or just let it go.

Anyway, here's an interesting read on LOVE.



THE RIGHT PERSON?
Pedro Arrupe, SJ


During one of our seminars, a woman asked a common question. She said, "How do I know if I married the right person?"

I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so I said, "It depends. Is that your husband?"


In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?" Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind. Here's the answer.

EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse. You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their idiosyncrasies.

Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love... because it's happening TO YOU.

People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet." Think about the imagery of that __expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU.

Falling in love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience.

But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria of love fades. It's the natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts.

The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think about your marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, "Did I marry the right person?" And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when marriages breakdown. People blame their spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for fulfillment.

Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work, church, a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances.

But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage. It lies within it.I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this):

THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON;
IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll NEVER just happen to you. You can't "find" LASTING love. You have to "make" it day in and day out. That's why we have the expression "the labor of love." Because it takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it takes WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work.

Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your marriage.

Just as there are physical laws of the universe such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your relationship WILL make your marriage stronger. It's a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable... you can "make" love.

Love in marriage is indeed a "decision"... not just a feeling.

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Somebody sent this to me. I find it interesting.

The problem is I don't quite know how to answer this. Should I refer to my last formal formal ex, whom I introduced to my parents and told everyone about? Or the last steady date that I had but never really got to the formalization to the world part?

I guess I'll just refer to the latter.


01. PAANO KUNG BIGLA KAYONG NAGKITA NG EX Mo?
- I don't know. The last time I saw her was in Boracay. She was with her family and in-laws. Actually, I didn't see her. She saw me and rang me and went to my hotel. Okay lang, I think she still wants me.

Ha! Conceited ba?

02.SINO SA MGA EX MO ANG GUSTO MONG BALIKAN?
- Actually wala. Coz all of them are married na. Yung gusto ko maging akin, never naman naging "akin"

03. BAKIT?
- They are all married.

04. PINAKILALA KA BA NG EX MO SA PARENTS?
- The first one I did. The last two "not-so-formal ones" I didn't.

05. BAKIT KAYO NAG-BREAK?
- The last one? Coz she slept with my best-friend's boyfriend (my best friend is a girl)

06. SA PALAGAY MO MINAHAL KA NG EX MO?
- Sobra

07. ANONG GUSTO MONG SABIHIN SA EX MO NA NAGPAPARAMDAM PA RIN SA IYO?
- We can never be anymore. I told you not to marry just because you're pregnant.

08. BAKIT YUN ANG SINABI MO?
- Because I would never want to be a third party. And I am not a home-wrecker.

09.PAANO KUNG AYAW KA NIYA TANTANAN?
- Because I was the one who treated her the best. (that's according to her)

10.OK LANG BA NA MAGING MAGKAIBIGAN KAYO NG EX MO?
- I'm still friends with all of them, except the first one. We just lost touch of each other. And I kinda stalked her after she broke up with me. Tagal kong naka-get over. Years ang binilang.

11. MAY NAGING BEST FRIEND KA BA NA NAGING GF/BF MO?
- Nope

12. MASASABI MO BA SA SARILI MO NA NAGING MABUTI KANG BF/GF SA EX MO?
- I never cheated. I did my best. So I guess I'm alright

13.NAGBAGO KA NA BA?
- Yeah. I've learn to grow and accept that it's over when it's over.

14.ILAN NA BA ANG NAPAIYAK MONG LALAKI/BABAE?
- I'm not sure exactly. I know of at least one.

15. INIYAKAN MO RIN BA SILA?
- Just one. The first one. And the one that was never mine.

16. MUSTA K NAMAN NGAYON?
- Just fine. Not happy but I know I will be.

17. KUNG MAGING EX MO DIN ANG X NG KAIBIGAN MO? ANO GAWIN MO?
- I'll try to avoid that. Never share girls. But if...just if...I don't think I should be doing anything.

18. ANO PINAKAMAGANDANG NATUTUNAN MO SA EX MO?
- For the first one and the only formal one, letting go.
- The second not-so-formal one...wala akong natutunan actually. It was all fun.
- The last one, and not-so-formal one...learn how to take accountability for your actions. And don't have sex unless you're in love. It's pointless.

19. ANONG MGA BAGAY NA GINAGAWA NYO nong KAU PA NA NAMIMISS MO NG SOBRA?
- I'm not sure if it's proper to describe it here in full detail.. ;p

20. MESSAGE NMAN KUNG SAKALI NA MABASA NYA T0
- Thanks for the good times. Take care of yourself. I hope your husband is treating you well now. If he isn't, learn to stand your ground. Or go back to your parents. No man should treat you that way. I'm still here as a friend.

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